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President, Major General (retd.) Muhammadu Buhari has described the death of foremost philanthropist and entrepreneur, Chief Bode Akindele, as an irreparable loss to the country.

The president made his feelings known in a condolence message released by his Special Adviser on Media and Publicity, Mr Femi Adesina, in Abuja on Monday.

Chief Akindele was a man of many parts. He was a creator of jobs who demonstrated untiring love for the down-trodden.

“His philanthropic gestures knew no bounds, intervening especially in critical sectors of the economy,” he said.

Buhari acknowledged that the late industrialist was one of the early groups of private individuals to support government intervention in the fight against the COVID-19 scourge, donating handsomely to the fund.

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He condoled with the government and people of Oyo State, particularly the Olubadan-in-Council on the loss of the Parakoyi of Ibadanland.

He noted Akindele’s immeasurable contributions to development and progress of his community and country remained paramount till the very end.

The president also commiserated with the Organised Private Sector on the departure of a key member whose imprints in various sectors would remain indelible.

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Buhari urged the family, friends and associates to take solace in the fact that Akindele touched lives, wrote his name in gold and lived a life of accomplishments.

He prayed that God would grant the deceased eternal rest.


My uncle called me after 27 years to apologize, lady raped for six years reveals



A woman identified as Anthonia Ojenagbon has narrated how she was raped and molested by a man who was supposed to be her uncle and guardian for six years.

Anthonia Ojenagbon is the managing director of Silton African Kitchen, a cutting-edge catering company. she was also among the first 1000 Africans to be selected for The Tony Elumelu Entrepreneurship Programme (TEEP) maiden edition in 2015.

According to Mrs Anthonia Ojenagbon,  she was 12-years-old when she was asked to leave at her father’s brother house as her parents could not afford to train them all.

She said that Lagos which was supposed to be a thing of joy as expected quickly turned to terror in the blink of an eye.

According to Anthonia;

“The first night (shortly after I arrived) it could have passed for a dream, except that I felt strongly it was real. I felt a hand grope my body; touch my nipples and then my vagina. I was scared because it was dark and couldn’t fathom who could be doing such to me. And because I came from a strong Deeper Life Christian family where sex was never mentioned, speaking of someone touching my genital was something I could not fathom.

In fact, the first feeling was a shock, that anyone could actually touch my genital.

That night passed and the hand-kept coming every night until after about a week when he finally penetrated me.

Still, I thought it was a monster, until one day, when my uncle came to threaten me that ‘If you ever tell anyone what is going on in this house, I will kill you.’

Anthonia who was just 12-years-old at the moment always thought it was a monster little did she know it was her uncle whom she loved so much that had been touching her.

“Apparently, he thought I knew. He also told me my mother, being a strong Christian, would never believe me. And I believed him. Really, it was a story hardly believable.

Of course, I bled that first time, but his wife thought it was my period and gave me a sanitary pad. Even now, I cannot explain how his wife never knew, even though we all slept in a one-room apartment and both of them slept on the same bed. If she knew or suspected but didn’t say anything, I honestly cannot tell. So many things happened then that I still cannot explain – like never getting pregnant all through.”

According to the Nation, he regularly started deflowering her after he raped her and it went on and on for six whole years until she was 18.

Anthonia said as a girl who hailed from a Christian background, she felt God hated her and blamed herself for everything she was experiencing and that made her rather useless and somewhat worthless.

“Following that first penetration, I felt I had done something wrong and blamed myself. As a Christian girl, my mother had told me that keeping myself as a virgin was like the best gift I could give my future husband; so I felt a treasure had been taken from me. I felt very useless and worthless.”

“My Deeper Life church background kept me deep in innocence. Our lives revolved around church and we hardly talked to people who were not our church members. My father, though a military man, was zonal coordinator before he died and as I speak, my mom is a national women leader in Rivers State. In fact, I thought such was happening to me because God hated me.”

According to the Nation, Anthonia who presently has a daughter, 15,  became hypertensive and had to be admitted to a psychiatric home at some point as she began to suffer mental issues.

That incident destroyed my life. I had been admitted to a psychiatric hospital because I had mental issues. I suffered depression for years; I’m on anti-depressants as I speak. My daughter is 15 and I’ve been hypertensive for that long. I take blood pressure medication daily.

I wish my husband would agree to speak with you, so you can understand the effects on me. You need to begin to speak to men who are married to women who have been sexually abused or raped. It comes in between you and your husband. By the way, I married because I wanted to leave my uncle’s house – not necessarily because I was in love.

As a rape victim, Anthonia said you either become an addict or you can’t stand anyone touching you…

Coronavirus has been in Nigeria for like 14 weeks? That’s how long ago I’ve had sex with my husband, yet we sleep on the same bed. Sexual abuse affects you either of two ways: You get addicted to sex or you’re not interested at all. So anybody who says I kept quiet because I was enjoying it does not know what he is saying. Enjoying what! Sex that was introduced to you in a violent way! As a child! By your own uncle! I beg, there’s nothing to enjoy there. I’m not interested in sex.

The luck I have is that I’m married to a man who loves and cherishes me; who has taken me to a psychiatrist hospital and has never used it against me. The day I got married, I begged my husband not to have sex with me because I was having triggers. I also told him not to sleep naked beside me and not to tell me ‘I love you’, call me ‘Darling, Dear’ or any of those words of endearment, because those were the words my uncle was using on me. So, today, my husband just calls me Tonia.

So, when people say things like ‘She is enjoying it’, I just tell them it’s because I’m not their daughter – because if I am, they’d be empathetic. For crying out loud, I was 12! I knew nothing about sex!”

Anthonia said for 12 years she couldn’t sleep naked beside her husband as she would have panic attacks as she developed a phobia for men.

“Until 12 years into my marriage, I could not sleep naked beside my husband. It’s so bad that my husband has to stay with me throughout labour – because I cannot stay in a room with another man alone or I would have panic attacks. If I had to see a male doctor during antenatal, he would have to be there. I developed phobia for men. On several occasions, I’ve told him I was leaving. But he’s a good person and I’m still in the marriage entirely because of his efforts. He understands that I’ve been through a lot. He’s there for me when I’m throwing tantrums and go into severe depression. I checked myself into a mental health home after three children without telling my family, because I was becoming schizophrenic and hearing voices that were telling me to go ahead and kill myself. The experience made me feel worthless. On many occasions, I had bought drugs to kill myself. I would tell my husband, ‘I’m not good enough for you. Don’t worry, when I die, the church would get you a better wife.’

However, she said once she started talking about it openly her uncle had called her to apologise;

I don’t see him anymore. He has, however, called me to apologise. He called me on the first Monday of 2019 to apologise. That was his first time.

I think he came to apologise because I had started talking openly and indicting him. He said he was very sorry, that I should please forgive him.

The whole family came; my mother, my siblings; they’ve all been begging me to let go. My mum said I should stop talking publicly about it; but now it has gone beyond me, because I run a support group, Tonia Bruised But Not Broken.

Anthonia concluded by saying that it has become a chapter in her life which doesn’t matter anymore as she has started a support group to help other survivors of rape.

“I started Tonia Bruised But Not Broken in 2015 after I came back from the mental health home. That was where it was discovered that I was suffering from the psychological effects of childhood sexual abuse. I am well now and I can talk to you without breaking down. Also, I’m not talking from a place of pain, it has become a chapter in my life and it doesn’t matter any longer. But I found out there were lots of people who went through my kind of experience and were yet to heal, and it was affecting them. That’s why you’d see people behaving irrationally and having anger issues. That’s why you’d see some say, ‘I’ll never forgive you.’ It’s because they’re still bitter and have not healed. And if you don’t heal from your pain, your pain can destroy you. I talked about how I became suicidal.

So I said to myself; why not start a support group for people who have been raped and who have not been able to heal? Bring in counsellors and therapists to talk to them, so that they know that they can heal from their pain. When you heal properly, you may even begin to feel sorry for your abuser – because you realise that he did not know better. Probably he was abused and never got help. An abused person who has not healed would abuse another person. So I went for different training and now I’m a rape recovery specialist. We meet at Radisson Blue and it is a judgement-free forum.

We have a lot of women of my generation and older women who are yet to speak up about their abuse, so it’s an avenue for them to come unburden, get therapy and one-on-one counselling. You may have noticed that we have a lot of mental health issues flying around. Even fibroid has been linked to trauma like childhood sexual abuse. We attend to those mental and emotional needs. The bad part is, when you don’t get help as a victim, the cycle of abuse continues.

I used to fund it wholly – I’m an event caterer; but I have friends who believe in what I’m doing and now support me. But I still fund it 80%. As I speak, we have been able to reach 4,600 women who are past victims. In May 2019, we started a series: Live purposefully beyond sexual violence’ and Mrs Ibukun Awosika was a keynote speaker. On that day, we had 83 women rape survivors and she was totally blown. In fact, that day, we had a girl whom her father had raped the day before.


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Source: The Nation

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Adamawa Correspondents’ Chapel office burgled on Exco inauguration day



The office of Correspondents’ Chapel of the Nigeria Union of Journalists (NUJ) in Adamawa State has been burgled.

The unidentified burglars made away with the flatscreen TV set and the StarTimes subscription modem of the correspondents.

The incident occurred on the very day scheduled for the inauguration of a set of members who had emerged days earlier as the new executives of the Chapel.

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The correspondents had turned up for the inauguration on Saturday only to behold a broken window through which the smugglers entered the office and a bare wall on which the flatscreen TV used to be.

The incident forced the change in venue for the EXCO inauguration from the office, famously called Correspondents’ Chapel Gallery, to the NUJ Press Centre within the same Ribadu Square neighbourhood of the state capital, Yola.

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At the ceremony, Daji Sani of ThisDay newspaper was inaugurated as chairman of the Correspondents’ Chapel, with Hussaini Hammangabdo of Leadership as Vice Chairman.

Onimisi Alao of The Nation was inaugurated as Assistant Secretary, with Muhammed Auwal of NAN as Assistant Secretary.

Amina Abdullahi of Daily Trust and Fati Mohammed of DW Radio were inaugurated as Treasurer and Auditor, respectively.

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The Chairman of the State Council of NUJ, Ishaku Dedan, who conducted the inauguration, urged the new Correspondents’ Chapel executives to function in accordance with the constitution of the NUJ.

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Ex-ANAN President tasks FG on revised 2020 budget



Dr. Samuel Nzekwe, a former President, Association of National Accountants of Nigeria (ANAN) has advised the Federal Government to ensure full implement the revised 2020 budget.
Nzekwe gave the advice in an interview with the Newsmen in Ota, on Sunday.
The former ANAN president said that the advice became necessary for the federal government following the COVID-19 pandemic currently ravaging the country.
Nzekwe commended President Muhammadu Buhari for signing the budget and also taken COVID-19 into consideration in the budget.
“The federal government needs to redouble its efforts in fighting the pandemic because it has paralyzed most sectors of the economy.
“Government should implement the budget with conscious due to the huge effects of COVID-19 on the economy,” he said.
He noted that without effectively addressed the scourge, the nation’s economy would not be able to quickly recover and pick up again.
Nzekwe stressed the need for team works in implementing the revised budget so as to achieve the desire results.
He, therefore, called on the federal government to institute checks and balances to address looting and corruption in the system so that the budget could be effectively implemented.
Nzekwe urged the government to address problems in the health sector and build critical infrastructure in order to boost the economy.
Buhari had on Friday, signed the revised 2020 Budget of N10.8 trillion into law.
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