The first lady of Ekiti State, Bisi Fayemi has said she’s appalled by the number of women who have come out to shame and condemn Busola Dakolo, wife of singer, Timi Dakolo.
Busola recently accused Senior Pastor of Commonwealth of Zion Assembly COZA, Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo, of raping her when she was 17.
Mrs. Fayemi in an article she shared online, said the culture of shaming rape victims and forcing them to silence their pain in Nigeria must stop.
In her own opinion,
“Any adult who has a sexual relationship with a girl under the age of 18 is committing statutory rape, there is no such thing as consensual sex with a minor”.
Speaking on the backlash Busola has received for speaking about the rape incident 20 years after, Mrs Fayemi wrote,
“Over and over, supporters of the Pastor and some who claimed neutrality kept asking why Busola decided to speak up twenty years after the rape took place. Why is she speaking out now? Why did she not say something at the time? I could not believe some of the things people were saying, including those who ought to know better. Busola Dakolo and her husband Timi received unprecedented support for their bravery, the court of public opinion seems to be in their favour.
”However, I could not help but wonder how we got to where we are, a society blissfully unaware of the war that has been waged consistently on the bodies of women and girls from one generation to the next. Women don’t talk about what happened to them as girls or as adults because of the implications – shame, stigma, punishment, rejection. I am even more appalled at the number of women who have added their voices in the shaming of Busola. If you cannot say anything to support another woman in pain, say nothing.
”Keep quiet. If you are a fan of the accused Pastor, support him if you want, but you don’t have to call his accuser names.
Mrs. Fayemi went on to share how she was almost abused when she was a child and how her gut and her mother’s immediate stand saved her from being a victim.
”When I was ten years old, my mother brought a male teenage relative to live with us to help around the house. His name was Sina. He slept on a mattress on the floor with my younger brother, while I was on the bed with one of my young Aunts. One night, before I fell asleep, I felt my bed covers being pulled. I pulled them back up. It happened again and I did the same thing. The third time, I allowed the covers to be pulled off totally to be sure I was not making a mistake. I sat up and asked Sina what he was doing. He said ‘nothing’. I stayed awake for most of the night. First thing in the morning, I went to tell my mother. She did not yell at me. She did not scream and call me a liar. By the time I got back from school, Sina was gone and we never saw him again. We never had any male relatives live with us after that.
”When I was in secondary school and home for the holidays, I was around thirteen at the time, I told my father I wanted to learn how to swim. There was this young man who lived next door, he used to run errands for my father, we called him Brother Lai. My father asked Brother Lai to take me and my Aunt to Airport Hotel, Ikeja, to teach us how to swim. My first swimming lesson was my last. Brother Lai held me from behind, teaching me how to kick my feet under the water, while at the same time pressing himself against me and touching me inappropriately.
”When I asked him why he was doing that, he asked, ‘Can’t I play with you’? The next day, when he came around for us to go for the next lesson, I refused. I never told my parents what happened, I just mumbled something about not liking water. I was afraid of causing trouble. I did not want Brother Lai to be sent away on my account, the same way Sina was frog-marched to the motor park by my mother. I did not want my parents to think I was in some way encouraging these men to be inappropriate towards me. So, I said nothing and just stayed out of Brother Lai’s way.
”Brother Lai had never given any indication that he was anything other than a respected older brother figure. I was however literally placed in his hands and he saw an opportunity and took advantage of it. That is what predators do, they wait for opportunities to present themselves and then they abuse trust and innocence. With hindsight, I shudder at the naivety of my trusting parents. I, however, learned to appreciate my mother’s response to my claims, it could have gone differently. What if my mother had not believed me? What if Brother Lai had come into our house and I had let him in, and he had proceeded to attack me in my own home?”
I dare any man to break my heart, Lady says as she shows off military dad, brother (photo)
A Nigerian lady has taken to social media to dare the menfolk who derive pleasure in hurting ladies.
Beaming with confidence the lady identified as ID Mobola on twitter shared photos of her military dad and brother daring any playboy to mess with her feelings.
The photo below shows a serving corp member and her serious looking father and brother.
Sharing the photos, she simply captioned it:
“If you have mind come and break my heart“
See photos below;
Covid-19: Oyo discharges 17, records two deaths
Oyo State has recorded two more deaths from COVID-19, bringing the state’s total to six.
Head of the state COVID-19 task force, Governor Seyi Makinde disclosed this while giving an update on Wednesday morning.
The two deaths were from the six positive cases reported for Tuesday.
With the six cases, a total of 250 cases are now confirmed in the state.
The breakdown of the six latest cases shows one case recorded from iSON Xperiences and one each from Ibadan South West, Ibadan South East, Surulere, Ido and Egbeda Local Government Areas.
Meanwhile, seventeen confirmed COVID-19 patients have been discharged.
U.S. passes 100,000 coronavirus death toll
The U.S. has surpassed the grim milestone of 100,000 coronavirus deaths, the world’s highest.
It reached the mark on Tuesday night as figures rolled in from the states.
John Hopkins University estimated the death toll at 98,902 deaths as at 01:30GMT on Wednesday.
But data company Dadax which runs worldometers.info said 100,579 people have died.
On Tuesday alone, fresh infections were 19,049 , while fresh deaths were 774.
U.S. caseload of infections is now 1,725,275 and still counting.
President Trump has been accused of causing the carnage, by not taking action when he should have.
But on Tuesday night, Trump tweeted a defence:
“For all of the political hacks out there, if I hadn’t done my job well, & early, we would have lost 1 1/2 to 2 Million People, as opposed to the 100,000 plus that looks like will be the number.
“That’s 15 to 20 times more than we will lose. I shut down entry from China very early!
“One person lost to this invisible virus is too much, it should have been stopped at its source, China, but I acted very quickly, and made the right decisions.
“Many of the current political complainers thought, at the time, that I was moving far to fast, like Crazy Nancy!”.
Nancy Pelosi is the Speaker of the U.S. House of Representatives.
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