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Five things you must never do as an in-law
While many couple share cordial and warm ties with their spouse’s family, there are still others who would never give the in-laws an inch of opportunity to get close to them.
As a wife or husband, no matter what your relationship with your in-laws may look like, there are still some things you always wish they never, ever do to you, because you want to enjoy blissful life with your spouse.
As an in-law, yes you may have the best of intentions for your uncle, aunt, brother, sister, cousin, son or daughter, whatever the case may be, but here are some things you should never do if you want to build the best relationship with their spouses.
1. Don’t barge in on their house by visiting unannounced
Since you’re not the Messiah the Bible said will be coming unannounced like a thief in the night, why would you visit a couple unannounced because you’re an in-law? You have to respect boundaries by informing the couple before visiting. No matter how close you are to the wife or husband, don’t barge into their house unannounced. In some cases some couple expect you to inform the husband and the wife if you’re coming to visit them. As an in-law before a visit, you need to inform the couple by calling or sending SMS.
2. Respect privacy, their bedroom is out of bounds to you
Except permitted or in a rare case where the mother-in-law has to take care of a new born baby, the bedroom is out of bounds to in-laws. Respect the couple’s privacy, and it starts from their bedroom, don’t just walk into their bedroom except you’re permitted by the two parties, have some courtesy please.
3. Don’t impose your decisions on them
As an in-law, you need to draw a line between advising and imposing your decision as an advice. You can advise, but know that your advice could be taken or discarded. Don’t become an overbearing in-law who wants to always make decision for the couple, they are adults please, and they know what is good for them.
When they give you an opportunity to express your views on any issue regarding their home, advice but don’t impose your decisions on them.
4. Don’t talk down on the couple
Don’t try to lash out at either of the couple, don’t denigrate them, do not ridicule them. Deal with them with some level of respect. Talk to them the way you want them to talk to you. No adult wants to be tongue lashed by any in-law, it makes them fell worthless when an in-law start talking down on them, they transfer the aggression to their partners.
5. Stay out of their misunderstanding
You may be their favourite in-law, but you must not step beyond your boundary. When it comes to misunderstandings between spouses, let them deal with it between themselves without any form of interference from you, except you’re invited, stay away from their misunderstanding.
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