A 25-year-old lady has said that her mother unknowingly turned her to a sex addict because of her overbearing and hurtful accusations.

The lady identified as Morolake Carter @morolakecarter, said that her mother’s forced her to undergo virginity test when she was only 16 years old.

The Twitter user said her mother’s constant accusations made her explore sex and become very sexually active.

Morolake Carter also said that her mother says she is a dirty slut who sleeps with people’s dads but then there’s no point explaining that she is not one.

The Twitter user who is apparently bitter towards her mother said “I’m 25 now and I really want to spit in her face and tell her that if I’m really a slut, it is only because of her.”

Read her post:

“When I was 16 my mom accused me of having sex. I kept insisting I hadn’t so she got a matron to come and do a test.

“My friends and I had imagined all sorts. How do you test for virginity? One of the girls said her grandmother once tried putting a whole egg into her vagina. If it drops inside it means you have lost the virginity.

“The thing is even with my legs wide open I couldn’t understand how an egg would enter inside. I had only managed my fingers. The matron came and asked me to lay flat on the bed. She put on gloves, inserted two finger inside me , removed them and told me to get up.

“What did that mean? She took me back to my mother and started shaking her head. My mother asked me to start confessing because they had confirmed it. I started shedding tears like a tap I had never had sex.

“What sort of accusation was this? I “confessed” though. A whole letter of lies because no one was believing my truth and I needed the nightmare to pass. My mom “forgave” me.

“A year later before I went to uni. I texted one of my random male friends “Hi, can you come and have sex with me”.

“He was excited. I already had the mentality that that was all men wanted. It was weird and dry and painful and he just kept trying. I was irritated, I had picked the wrong boy I thought he’d know better since he was in uni and had babes

“He couldn’t believe I was a virgin. Why did I choose him? I told him to leave my house. It wasn’t that big a deal. Just like that. I had lost it. I’ve grown into a very sexual person but I still wonder if it was worth it. Couldn’t I have waited? Kept it.

“My mother accuses me of being a dirty slut and sleeping with people’s dads. I never have but then there’s no point explaining.

“I’m 25 now and I really want to spit in her face and tell her that if I’m really a slut, it is only because of her.”

The Twitter thread has since generated hundreds of comments and advice.

See some:

Hey bae, it’s all on you. You’ve got to forgive your mum to do away with the heavy burden on your heart for your OWN peace. Beautiful life lies ahead of you and it’s yours to live..
Peace I wish for you…..

— Durojaiye Raphael (@sitanda14) January 30, 2019

My love….I understand you so well and what you’re going through. Now you have to help yourself. You can go through therapy and forgive your mum. Let her know though and move on. Unforgiveness is the cause of most heart diseases. Luv you sweet.

— Amical FirstLady??? (@esdrevogue) January 30, 2019

This so sad and heartbreaking?. With every story I read here makes me appreciate my mum the more.

— barlyquez (@a_dunola07) January 30, 2019

Most girls gave up their virginity same way. Our mothers can push one into stuff we never planned to do.

But hey sis, this is your life. You for to take charge and not let Momma’s distrust turn you into who you’re not. Sending you warm hugs ??

— Firstlady Williams (@buy_a_firstie) January 30, 2019

Believe me she tot she was doing the best for U.We mothers pass tru lots of pressure raising daughters. forgive her. Am raising 2 18,15 teenage girls and i am always on my toes around them. Somedays i just sieze their phones and go through.. It’s not so easy raising a girl child

— Crystal (@graceloveamy) January 30, 2019

I’m not close to my mother at all, she’s meant to be my safe place but I rather look for my safe place elsewhere which has led to my depression

— SPONGEBOB (@_cheequte) January 30, 2019

Do you know how she was raised? Do you know that mothers have fears when trying to talk to their children also.. We only use courage to say somethings. I was raised in an environment that allows open flow of feelings. You are allowed to talk and my parents listen then advise

— Crystal (@graceloveamy) January 30, 2019

Can you just please stop trying to justify all this?! It’s sickening to read.
Her mother was wrong. Say it as it is.

— naa__dedei (@mzdedei28) January 30, 2019

Same as my mom i don’t no why Africa mothers feels insecure wit deir daughters at teenage age. My mom do acquire me of guys smushin Nd fingerin me den..But it was a whole big lie. I will always cry anytime she starts d acquisitn sometimes I wonder if she was my mother.

— sheedah_empire (@Arosadolly) January 30, 2019

Oh my goodness! Reading this leaves me feeling hurt for you. Lots of hugs ??. You matter the most. Be happy just for you. Please don’t let her digs get to you. I know it’s difficult but please be happy even if it means creating some distance for your sanity sake.

— Cai (@PrincessOnome) January 30, 2019

I went through almost the same thing
Do you think one day you could forgive her?

— Sugar (@claroqueen) January 30, 2019

I’ve accepted that I can never get mine back
And if your mom loves you as much as any mother would, telling her this might break her.
But you need it to heal, so maybe liquor up for liquid confidence and tell her ?

— Sugar (@claroqueen) January 30, 2019

“Broken people break the people they raise” ?

— King.boss (@Kvngboss7) January 30, 2019

Eish don’t even know what to say I’m heart broken.. I’m sorry that you had to go through this but the good news is that it is not over yet.. You can use this past experience to be your motivation to Excell and be the greatest woman ever…

— Zeb Media (@zeb_media) January 30, 2019

There is, Because it is your “LIFE”.
Don’t let it pass away like this.
When there is “Life” there is hope.
You will find the Peace you deserve.

— Dαɓყ? (@Dabygurl_) January 30, 2019

Mothers and daughters.
That relationships.. Well, we live through this things. Perhaps she was only looking out for you, sometimes parents don’t know how to do this things.. There’s no manual or rule book. Focus on being a better mother to your daughter. Leave the old woman.

— ?GuidedSoul (@ValTalleyrand) January 30, 2019

1. It’s difficult not to feel bad, terrible and terrified with all that. Especially such accusation coming from your very own mother. But dear, everything is all on you. Only you will bear the eventual consequence. Just be you, don’t damage yourself because of mother pressure.

— Maverick MAM♊️♊️♊️ (@youngwarlockmh) January 30, 2019

Sometimes, when people accuse you wrongly, even though, deep down they know you are innocent, they are only asking for you to prove your innocence, not to condemn yourself. Especially African mothers, they might not be the best, but truly, they love all their children.

— MyIdealBags?? (@myidealbags) January 30, 2019

Have read lots of comments, and most people advised her to forgive her mum. We all think mum don’t make mistakes, and if they do, they have their reasons because they gave birth to us. Really? But when it comes to dads, we say all sorts of things to discredit them. It is well!

— iam_xklusive_atm (@Xklusive_ATM) January 30, 2019

Nothing hurts more than this when the ones that’s suppose to have your back are the ones accusing you as a little boy growing up there was a day I was playing with a girl inside their house her uncle stepped in and we stop playing it was awkward

— YungNation Pakama (@Mista_YNation) January 30, 2019

This story here broke me.
It pains when the people so closest to us can’t believe in us.
Their faulty stand with us make us do those things we never wanted to do.
Brace up gal. Dust them off you.

— Scarcemoon (@Verasweets) January 30, 2019