Meditation and sex might sound or appear very strange to modern day couple, especially those who hardly indulge in adventure during sexual activities.

The synchronisation between meditation and sex cannot easily be explained by a non-professional, but there is a tradition linking both, which dates back to centuries, and the connection is not a one-way thing.

Mr. Justyn Comer, who is an author of Meditation for Life, and a co-founder of RWM Education Incorporated, which is a nonprofit organisation dedicated to making meditation available to people, gives an in-depth explanation on how a couple can enhance their sex performances with meditation. He said tantric practice in the east viewed the energy generated during sex as a potential springboard for certain meditative states.

Below are five ways to use meditation to enhance your sex life:

Meditation helps with stress management: Meditation is a renowned antidote for managing stress, and stress is very terrible for sex. Stress is the body’s reaction to being overwhelmed by the pressure of our lives, which triggers the fight-or-flight response and makes us feel lightheaded, nervous, and even nauseous. During these feelings, one feels the urge to run, hide, or fight in response to stress—not to make love. When this happens, our libido takes a hammering.

Part of the physiological response to stress is the release of adrenaline and related hormones. We are then primed for action and hypervigilance, but this takes a lot of energy, and not surprisingly, we feel exhausted long before we get to bed. To compound the problem, we don’t sleep well with our mind ill at ease, relentlessly trying to find solutions to our problems.

Meditation helps eliminate distractions:  Meditation helps our brains notice when we’re distracted. And when one partner is distracted during sex, it’s not good for anyone. When you’re thinking about work, finances, or life in general, your partner will know. He or she may not know what or who you’re thinking about, but they know you’re not fully present. It discourages to know your partner is not paying attention when you’re at your most vulnerable. Meditation trains us to move our attention back to where we want it, make you more attentive and your partner will notice and want to reciprocate.

Meditation will help you get the spark back:  Listening is one of the most powerful aphrodisiacs. When you first started dating, you were likely fascinated by everything your partner had to say, and they were fascinated by everything you had to say. You both felt seen, heard, and had a sense of a powerful connection. The lust that emanates from this is our desire to physicalise the psychological union. However, after months or years of being with the same person, you’ve probably stopped listening.

You may still have physical attraction, but over time the psychological desire that kindles real passion dies down a bit. Meditation teaches you how to listen properly again by helping you see when your attention is no longer fully on what they’re saying and gives you the skill to put it back. To get the spark back, start listening fully. Meditation is the training that shows you how.

Meditation helps you understand the power of now: Meditation also helps make sex special again by snapping you out of your routine and waking you up to your innate present moment awareness. Part of meditation is about being awake to right now. We try to sit in observation of the present moment by putting our attention on things happening in the present, like our breathing. We see how hard that is when we become distracted but then train ourselves over and over to return our attention to see what’s happening at the moment rather than what’s happening in our heads.  Meditation wakes us up to the now, and help you bring back the intimacy by being fully present.

Meditation can help you read your partner’s mind: This is about recognising the conscious mind as being great at many things like the rational thought, but also that it is severely limited. It is about recognising our subconscious mind as being far quicker, more aware, and more capable of many other things. Meditation is the training that can help you quiet your thinking and help you get in touch with that awareness that sits behind your conscious brain. It is this part of yourself that can pick up and process hundreds of subtle cues from your partner’s breathing, their body, sighs, and reactions that the thinking mind will completely miss. You’ll just instinctively know what the right move is without knowing why. You may not actually be psychic, but your partner may well think you are.

SOURCE: Mindbodygreen