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TIPS! Seven signs to know your sex life is good, number three will shock you

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Most time so many people base a good sex life on the actions that take place on the bed alone. No! this notion is very wrong as sex experts have shown that there are other habits we indulge in that actually guarantee a good sex life aside intercourse.

Below are seven signs that your sex life is good:

You feel empowered to ask what you want: This simply means you are not afraid to speak up. Great sex essentially boils down to one key element: communication. When you feel comfortable expressing your wants and needs to your partner, you will feel at ease and excited to try things out. A good sex is all about finding your perfect recipe,” which means talking it out, even when it feels awkward. Telling your partner what you want is important, but it’s just as important to discuss what you don’t want, whether it’s something that doesn’t feel good, or simply that you’re just not into it today.

Your communication is on point outside the bedroom too: When you feel connected with your partner on the less sexy things in life too. As crucial as it is to communicate about your sexual desires, it is even more crucial that you feel connected with your partner on other, less sexy things. So when you feel a close bond with your significant other, you’ll feel those good vibes radiate in all areas of your relationship, which will extend to your sex life. Feeling emotionally connected and wanted by your partner makes you more interested in sex. A good exercise to keep this up is to choose to spend at least an hour per week catching up on your feelings towards each other, one-on-one, no interruptions.

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You masturbate: When you masturbate it simply means you can set aside some time for yourself. It is a known fact that we are all busy one way or the other doing something. Whether you have been married for long or not, you should learn to take out some time on occasion to explore your own body and find out what feels good to you. Many people think of sex as something that requires two or more participants, but solo sex is an easy, healthy way to find out what you enjoy. Masturbation is good for both men and women, which means more masturbation leads to more partnered sex.

You are present during sex: Make sure your mind is not wandering. It is easy, especially in a long-term relationship, to have those moments where your mind drifts off elsewhere during intimate moments and it can happen out of nowhere, when suddenly you are thinking about the household chores, or something that happened at work, or something going on with your kids and suddenly you are feeling infinitely less sexy. But if you are generally having mindful sex, you are probably getting plenty of enjoyment out of the experience. Mindful sex doesn’t mean you’ll never have distracting thoughts. It means that you are able to let these distracting thoughts go without getting stuck on them.

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You are happy outside the bedroom: Your sex life has a lot to do with how you feel outside the bedroom. It is important to focus on your needs and your partner’s needs when it comes to sex, but sometimes knowing that you have a good sex life comes from the way you feel outside the bedroom. The truth is, sex relaxes you, so if you find that you are happier, lighter on your feet and have less stress over the small things, you probably have a good sex life.

You don’t take sex so seriously: You are willing to laugh about things. No matter how smooth and sensual it looks in culture, sex is often times awkward, clumsy, and weird. Even if you have insanely steamy chemistry with someone, anything can happen when it comes to sex. A position that doesn’t work, a move that results in a near fall off the bed, or even a bodily function that you didn’t anticipate. let’s be real, bodies do all kinds of strange things, but the most important thing is not to stress when an unexpected situation pops up. If you can laugh it off and carry on accordingly, you’ve probably got a pretty great sex life.

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You get what you want, but you are also giving too: It’s important to assert yourself so you can get what you are looking for, but sex with your partner is a two-way street. When you take the time to make sure your partner is happy and fulfilled, you’ll reap those feel-good benefits, too then both of you are satisfied. While orgasming is not the whole point of sex, the absence of orgasm is a signal that something else is missing, like comfort, info about what turns you on, arousal, time, and mutual respect. If you’re not on the same page as far as the timing of sex, take each other’s specific needs into account and alter your sexual schedule accordingly.

SOURCE: Insider

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Don’t threaten people with sexual abuse, El-Rufai’s wife tells son

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The first wife of Governor Nasir el-Rufai of Kaduna State, Hadiza el-Rufai, has criticised her son, Bello, over his tweets in which he threatened to have a sex orgy with someone’s mother.

Hadiza said on Twitter that sexual abuse should never be used as ammunition in public discourse.

Mrs. el-Rufai had come under attack on Sunday for seeming to take sides with her son who had threatened to gang-rape someone’s mother during a political debate.

Hadiza, who retraced her steps on Monday, tweeted:

“When I posted the tweet below, I assumed it was just the usual Twitter gbas-gbos (banter). Having read the tweets chronologically, I have had conversations with Bello. Never ever should sexual abuse be employed as ammunition in public/ private exchanges, no matter the provocation.”

Bello has been trending on Twitter for ethnic slurs and threats of sexual abuse.

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Trouble started after Bello took to Twitter to attack United States President, Donald Trump, over the handling of the COVID-19 pandemic.

Bello said:

“There is nothing as radioactive as an incompetent leader during a time of crisis. The United States of America is a case in point. A few states in Nigeria too.”

However, a Twitter user named Consigliere with the handle @oewonah (now @thanos_zer), said Bello should rather focus on Nigeria’s President, Maj.Gen Muhammadu Buhari (retd.)

He insisted that the American President was miles ahead of Buhari and even Bello’s father, el-Rufai, in terms of quality leadership.

Consigliere wrote:

“He (Bello) can’t call Buhari out for his ineptitude yet he’s calling Trump names? Did he vote Trump?”

El-Rufai’s son, however, decided to rain expletives on the man who disagreed with him and also insulted his ethnicity.

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He tweeted:

“Tell your mother I’m passing her to my friends tonight. No Igbo sounds please! Tueh.

Not done, the younger el-Rufai sent a private message to Consligiere, saying it was obvious that he was attacking Buhari because he is Igbo.

Bello further stated that Buhari was completing the Second Niger Bridge in the South-East, a feat which former President Goodluck Jonathan could not attain despite being supported by Igbo.

He also insulted the leader of the Indigenous People of Biafra, Nnamdi Kanu.

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He tweeted:

Your mother is the main whore of the South-East. I can’t reply you publicly. F**k Kanu and take a picture of the Second Niger Bridge, thanks to Buhari.

“My mentions are mine. If a Sunday bastard makes up lies and drags my father, his mother will be games. If he doesn’t want it, he shouldn’t mention me. The crowd has never phased (sic) me.

“Truly your mother’s son. Does she still earn by earning 2,019 naira per suck on Azikwe Street, Aba LGA? Tell her to wear mask and gloves while doing it due to this pandemic.”

The person whose tweets Bello was directed at, expressed shock at the insults, explaining that he wasn’t even Igbo.

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The moment your husband is about to cum during s*x is when to start praying fervently – Counsellor tells women [Video]

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A sex therapist and marriage counsellor, Dorcas Solomon, has advised married women on what to do when they are making love with their husbands.

Solomon, in one of her teachings on sex and relationship, counseled women to engage in fervent prayer the moment their husband is about to cum during sexual intercourse.

In the footage spotted on social media by WuzupNigeria, she was speaking on “Good Sex in Marriage”.

She advised:

“When you are having sex with your husband, train yourself to the level where both of you will cum together.

“When the temperature is getting hotter between both of you and he is about to cum, that is when to hold each other and release the blessing, like I use to pray for my husband when he is releasing his sperm inside me.

“I say this is what you’re releasing inside me, right now I release the blessing of God upon your life.”

Solomon said she has been seeing results from practising what she preaches.

“I bet you I’ve been doing it and God has been blessing him.

“There is no time that he makes love with me that I won’t pray for him and it’s working for him,” she said.

She also advised couples to open up to their partners when he or she is “not doing it right” instead of resorting to cheating.

“Nothing stops you from telling your partner if he is not doing it the way you want, communication is key. Tell him/her.

“If you want it discuss it with your partner, don’t be shy about it.

She went on to say consent is very important before husband and wife engage in sexual intercourse.

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My pastor dad sleeps with me before paying my school fees – Nigerian girl tells Police

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20-year-old Fortune has narrated to policemen how her pastor father started having sex with her when she was 13 years old, and that he would demand sex before paying her school fees.

Her father, the presiding Pastor of Mount Zion Light House Full Gospel Church, Obio Imo Lane, Uyo, Apostle Williams Okon Bassey, has been arrested by operatives of the Akwa Ibom State Police Command.

The state Police Public Relations Officer, Mr Odiko MacDon, who revealed that six others, including another pastor, were arrested for alleged incest and defilement, told newsmen that Fortune said she got pregnant thrice.

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He added:

“The victim stated that her father started having sexual intercourse with her at the age of 13. The continuous sexual assault led her to become pregnant on three different occasions and the pregnancies were aborted by her mother.

“She further revealed that the first time her father defiled her was in the church vestry. He threatened to place a curse on her if she dares tell anyone about his escapades. He also demands sex before paying her school fees or catering for her needs.”

The Police Command’s Spokesperson added that:

“On October 31, one Anwanga Essien Udo of 7, Itiam Street, Uyo, aged 33, a Pastor with Restoration Bible Church, was arrested for having unlawful carnal knowledge of his 10-year-old step-daughter(name withheld).

“When she was left alone with him, rather than be a father to her, he opted to turn her to a sex-machine.” The police spokesman warned perpetrators of such acts to desist forthwith or be willing to contend with the full wrath of the law.

He, therefore, urged parents to also make haste in reporting every form of sexual harassment when noticed to the police or other Security Agencies in the state timely, as concealment of these crimes has only led to an increase in violations.

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He commended the partnership of FEYREP, the pet project of the wife of the state governor as well as the good people of the state for their continued trust, encouragement and timely information.

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