People marry for different reasons, there are those who married for the wrong reasons, some out of pressure, some out of pity for their partner while some truly married the love of their lives and they’ve been truly living happily ever after.
Not so many people who are married or previously married had the privilege of falling into the last category. At least a viral Twitter thread has shown.
Marriage counselors often advise intending couples not to expect everyday bliss in their marriage, while perfection in a partner is not also expected to be found on the cards. Yet there are still complaints about people marrying partners who could be a little bit the wrong choice, and boom, divorce is already knocking.
A Nigerian photographer and actress, Gbemi Anthonia Adefuye, aka Toni Tones, took to her Twitter page, like she did in 2018, to ask women to share why they got married.
In a viral tweet in April 2018, Toni had asked men to share why they got married to their wives and the reactions were mind-boggling.
18 months after the male version, Toni called on the women to share the motive that led them into marrying their partners, and like 2018, to say the reactions are quite startling would be an understatement.
“In 2018 I wrote a thread asking men whether they married the woman they loved the most, or the woman who was around when they were ready to marry.
“Ladies, now I want to hear from you. Did you marry the love of your life? Or did you marry out of pressure or convenience?”
The viral tweet with over 1500 retweets and 3500 likes has sparked a series of reactions – the emotional, heartbreaking stories and the admirable love stories that social media users are seeing as models and perfect fits for love-goals.
While many are pouring out their stories of regrets, love gone sour and true love under the thread, some are preparing to get married this weekend amidst pop and pageantry. Well, they are the ones in a position to say if they are truly as happy as their wedding guests who will be treated to delicious delicacies – Nigerian Jollof, small chops etc with assorted wines and other drinks to ‘step down’.
The reactions are no doubt scary and they seem to be mounting fears in the mind of single ladies already, a frightened Twitter user wrote:
“Not married yet and not sure if I ever will after reading these BUT… Pre-marital counseling is a must for me. We shall deal with any doubts before entering into a marriage. Man or woman, all issues must be addressed. You will not disgrace me or break my HEART!!”
Another Twitter user wrote:
“Ouch I’ve never been married but can’t imagine marrying someone I deep down don’t want to be with. Divorce is WAY too expensive to gamble like this!!”
See some of the reactions:
And what’s crazy is my ex husband is now about to get remarried and he told me it’s for convenience. I hope I’m never the person that a man chooses bc of convenience. And if I am, keep that shit to yourself.
— Erica (@mrsericanobadu) October 10, 2019
You can’t compare your dating relationships to your married life. When you add kids to the mix what you want Is someone who is wholeheartedly committed to doing life together. It’s more than a feeling. Of course many people could be the love of my life, but it’s whom I CHOSE…
— Sarona Reddy (@Eish_Mag) October 10, 2019
I married him because I fell in love with him. He was first man I was in love with that I didn’t have to fret whether he loved me as much as I loved him. It was very comforting. Other men who had been head over heels in love with me, I didn’t feel the same.
— Florida Uzoaru (@floridauzoaru) October 10, 2019
It helps that we had been friends through those years of being with other people I guess so we know each other histories a bit. But what we have is deep love with friendship and respect as well as attraction which is so much better than drama and something that could fizzle out.
— Jyoti (@Jyojo_B) October 9, 2019
I got married 2 weeks after I turned 18. I married for what I thought was love. Looking back it was a combination of trying to get away from my family and being desperate for validation and affection. In the end though, it broke me.
— Bɾყɳ Mαƈƚìɾҽ (@BrynGrayskull) October 9, 2019
Definitely love of my life. Met him 9 months after breaking up with an ex I was with for 5 years. And we both knew immediately.
If I married my ex, it honestly would have been from pressure of “but I’ve been with him for 5 years though”.
— Mama Ihuaku | S. A. (@stephanyamele) October 10, 2019
He had while in the military that he knew about but had no intentions on disclosing to me. He was well off and stable but lacked integrity. Thank God I didn’t fall victim to the pressure before I knew the truth. Take your time ladies, I’m happy and falling in love now.
— Drip💧say-less, Esq.💼🗽♓️ (@Lexiz_nexiz) October 9, 2019
Meanwhile, some women have begged to remain anonymous as they shared their stories with Toni via the direct message.
See screenshots of their stories:
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How my wife and I were humiliated, manhandled by Nigeria Police at Moore Police Station Ile Ife By Dr Abiodun Olabanjo
My wife and l are Medical Doctors practising in Ile Ife Osun state. While my wife works with OSHMB. I have a private hospital in Ile Ife. l had to drive my wife to her place of work this morning with the private hospital ambulance (Name of the hospital well written on the ambulance with Doctors stickers on the windscreen). We had passed through several police barricades on the way.
On getting to one of the barricades in front of Moore Police station, we stopped and they asked for our mission on the road, despite the lockdown declared by the Government, and we patiently introduced ourselves and told them where we work and the reason why I had to drive my wife to her place of work and also informed them that I would be coming back soon as I had a patient that was been prepared for surgery before I left the hospital.
To my surprise on my way back from State Hospital Oke Ogbo Ile Ife where my wife works unlike other checkpoints where we had passed, where they didn’t need to stop us again for questioning on seeing the same hospital ambulance, the police at the barricade in front of Moore decided to stop us again and we did.
They asked me again for my identity and I explained to them but they insisted on parking the ambulance despite all explanation. After some persuasion one of the police personnel ordered the barricade to be removed, a car in the front and we followed but as we drove on we heard a loud bang at the back of the ambulance with someone in boy scout uniform calling other policeman claiming we broke through their barricade.
We, therefore, decided to stop but before I could open the car door to come down they started hitting me from the car, slapping and dragging me out of the car saying we wanted to hit one of them.
I was kicked several times by these about 30/50 people who were not even aware of what transpired. On citing this my wife quickly came down to stop the one slapping and hitting me but they didn’t even allow her they started beaten and dragging her too to the police station.
We were then ordered to be locked up in the cell by the Area Commander without any interrogation.
Instead, they collected all our four phones our shoes and other personal belongings including the car key without allowing us to make any form of communication either to our people nor our lawyer.
It was one of our patients who witnessed the event that quickly reported the case at our hospital from where our lawyer was contacted.
It was our lawyer in company of the patient that was waiting for emergency caesarian section that came to bail us at the police station. As we speak now, we were told they threatened to charge us to court tomorrow for trial even without investigation calling us all sorts of names and concorted lot of lies against us.
Our questions are….. Are Doctors not permitted to go to their places of work during this lockdown? Is the hospital ambulance not permitted to move during lockdown?
Was it normal for the police officer to collect all our phones without allowing us to communicate either with our people or our lawyer……. Our phones were ringing several times and they were dancing and singing to the tunes despite telling them that someone was in distress. It is our desire to register our displeasure to the whole nation…….
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